Thursday, January 2, 2014

Learning to Love Yourself

Last year my parental unit called & said some very hurtful & painful things to me. I was raised that a parent’s love for their children is unconditional. Not so...

It is never good when a parent tears down & rips to shreds their child’s sense of self esteem, self worth & the sense of family security.

My parental unit will never change, but I have! I can now believe AND accept that I am a good person; kind & strong in character, filled with love & compassion for others, finally filled with a passion for life.

I now realize that some of my past relationships failed because I was unable to believe I deserved anything then what I had settled for... Because I didn't feel I deserved anyone better. I settled for less then. I'm not trashing those people in my past, merely stating we were not a good match for each other.

If I am fortunate to find love in the future, it will be with someone who not only I deserve, but that they will deserve me as well, someone who together we can build each other up. To cherish & nurture.

And in the process, if I have to distance myself from those that desire to hurt me, who can't love, respect, and accept me then so be it... I know I deserve better.

We all deserve to be loved... We deserve to be loved & accepted, but mostly we deserve to love ourselves.


B Lund © 2014

2 comments:

  1. I don't need to add anything to what you've said. You deserve love, to be loved, (and are loved) and those who seek to tear you down are wrong.

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  2. You deserve nothing but the best, Brian. You are a lovely, caring person, and someone will cherish you.

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